Co-parenting on Halloween
Fall is upon us here in Texas. That means there’s one week of nice fall weather before frigid winter begins. We don’t really get a fall here. It’s more like a month of spring then summer, summer, summer, a week of fall then winter, winter, winter! Anyway, that’s Texas for you and totally not the reason for this post. Halloween is the reason for this post and I wanted to share with you guys how we all do co-parenting on Halloween.
Co-parenting crash course
Here’s a quick look at our family dynamic.
This family dynamic is pretty common these days with the divorce rate being so high. Here’s where we break the mold. Tasha and I = besties! I mean for real! That woman is amazing and one of my dearest friends. Dewal and Trey — they’re pretty good friends too. It’s things like sharing the holidays that has brought us all together. I just want to tell you that you can get there too. It’s such a warm and wonderful feeling knowing your child is so loved.
The ghosts of Halloween past
In our family we celebrate the holidays together. We have been doing this since Collin was born seeing as how Tasha has been in ourlives since Collin was one month old. Collin’s first Halloween we took him to Boo at the Zoo since he was only 10 months old and couldn’t really go trick or treating. (pic above)
His second Halloween we did a family theme of Charley Brown. I was Peppermint Patty, Tasha was Lucy, Trey was Linus and Collin was Charley Brown. I hadn’t met Dewal yet. (pic to the left)
Collin’s 3rd Halloween we again went with a family theme of Jurassic park. Dewal has come on the scene now but we didn’t have our costumes on for this picture and Tasha is about to burst with Cohen. (pic to the right)
Collin’s 4th Halloween he was old enough to choose his own costume and he wanted to be a ninja turtle so guess what? We’re all doing the family thing again. Trey was Krang, Dewal was Shredder and the rest of us were Ninja Turtles with Collin being Michael Angelo, his favorite. (pic below)
Now here we are coming up on Collin’s 5th Halloween and we’ve got another sibling in the mix. Although ninja turtles are still way up there on Collin’s favorite list, he wanted to do something different this year. He wants to be Brat from the Despicable Me 3 movie. So the other night we sat down and figured it all out. Collin will be Brat, Dewal will be Gru, I will be Lucy, Trey will be El Macho, Tasha will be Agnus, Caelyhn will be Agnus’s stuffed unicorn and Cohen will be a purple minion (very fitting for him lol). I can’t wait to get all the costumes done and show you all how it turned out.
**Update, here we are. The “despicable” family.**
Just doing what we do
So five years now. This is our 5th Halloween together co-parenting our children and it gets better and better each year. I absolutely love my family. I have a Christ following husband, Dewal, who is kind, loving and open minded enough to enter into a family where he parents directly along with 3 other people. I’ve got a best friend, Tasha, who loves my son beyond measure and would give anything in the world for him. I have a co-parent and friend, Trey, who is a stand-up guy teaching our children by example every day. And I have these 3 little people, one son and 2 co-children, who inspire me and show me that no matter what differences you have with the other parent, the kids are what matters and for those kids you do anything and everything.
Co-family So Hard
I want to encourage you to start taking steps to bring your family together too. Kids can’t help that their parents aren’t married to each other. It’s not their fault that things didn’t work out between mom and dad. But you can make the best of it for your children by promoting a loving happy co-family and showing your children your love has no boundaries. Blending a fun holiday is a really great way to start! It doesn’t really matter where you start though as long as you do it.
Maybe this post on Mom and Step Mom Date Ideas will have some fun things you want to try to start building that relationship.